How many of you are waiting for one chapter or story in your life to close so that another can begin? Closure can seem like it takes F O R E V E R and then some. The stresses that come with the need for closure are many, such as anxiety, when is it coming?, how will it come?, will the outcome be what I expect?, what do I expect anyway?, and so on and on…The expectations get raised, all kinds of what-if scenarios are imagined and in many cases, a lot of us think the absolute worst in the possible outcomes. We create so much worry, angst, and anxiety within ourselves.
In chatting with my sister recently, we realized we are both in a place where we need closure. The closures my sibling and I are seeking are both professional in nature even though we do very different types of work. I work in sales and am awaiting the decision on a contract that has been in play for many months. My sister waiting for a position at work, a step up, advancement, a new career path that has also been in play for many months, even years. We are both telling each other to be patient, and just wait. My sister finally exclaimed “I JUST NEED CLOSURE!!!” and I could not agree more for her situation or for mine.
The exciting and exhilarating, sometimes viewed as scary and terrifying, thing about closure is the AFTER. You know, the ‘Now What’?’ question that comes into play. Where do I go from here? Now what? For the outcome in closure in many cases can have a heavy impact on future decisions and life scenarios. And if you are like my sister and I who play the ‘what if this happens, then I will do this, and also do X, Y, and Z, ‘just-in-case’ scenarios and then we worry about all of them.
So, are you awaiting closure on a matter in your life? I am sure it is a long time coming and I hope your outcome is better than whatever it is that you are expecting. :-) Be thinking about your ‘Now What?’, not in a ‘scared of what might happen’ way, but instead be EXCITED and OPTIMISTIC about the POSSIBILITIES way of thinking.
I am consciously trying to think about my ‘Now What?” in a positive light instead of filling myself with worry about the unknown future and all of my worst case scenario what-if stories I spin up. I am uncovering more and more that life is all about your perception, your thoughts, and the stories that we tell ourselves. I encourage you to start filling your thoughts with awesome, positive, dream BIG ‘Now What?’ ideas.
So, please tell me are you seeking closure in something? How are you answering your ‘Now What?’ questions? Do you like the answers you are telling yourself? If not, then change them! It really is that easy!
Closure is coming, I can feel it….and I am looking forward to the ‘Now What?’ phase to come to fruition! I hope you are too.
Dream Big and then Dream Bigger!